If you’ve spent any time in church, you’ve undoubtedly heard of her. You may have done a Bible study over “becoming a Titus 2 woman” at some point or even taken a class pertaining to how to implement these Scriptures into your life and walk with Christ. This is what the Lord has put on my heart today and I’ve got all kinds of ideas swirling around in my head, so typically the best way for me to sort through my thoughts and take some kind of action is to write them out, so I hope y’all don’t mind me sharing this here. Maybe it’ll benefit you, too!
First of all, let’s take a look at Titus 2, verses 3-5 together. This is the portion addressed specifically to women: “3Similarly, teach the older women to live in a way that honors God. They must not slander others or be heavy drinkers.a Instead, they should teach others what is good. 4These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes,b to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.”
Secondly, what is this saying to us? It’s saying that women who are older (in age and/or maturity in their faith) should live in a way that honors God. They shouldn’t slander others (gossip or talk bad about other people, as this can ruin reputations and is not bearing good fruit or setting a good example), and they should not be heavy drinkers. I would also say that in our day, they shouldn’t be addicted to any kind of substance. The point here in this verse specifically is that the older women should set an example for everyone to see, most of all the younger women. Our testimony is so valuable and important to the watching world, and for each generation that comes after us. We are so far off course right now in this society that godly examples truly are so few and far between, but it’s up to each of us women who are lovers of our Lord Jesus Christ to walk in a manner worthy of our high calling in Him and let others see it. It says “INSTEAD, they should teach others what is good,” meaning that we don’t look like the world or the culture around us, but we look different and we teach others to look different. It says we are to TRAIN the younger women to: Love their husbands and children. Live wisely and be pure. Work in their homes. Do good and be submissive to their husbands. THEN they will not bring shame on the Word of God.
Wow. There is SO much to say about all of these things. Someone has dropped the ball somewhere, wouldn’t you say? A LOT of someone’s. Take a look around at the world for a moment and tell me if we have a society based on God’s principles here. I mean, His Word is based on His principles, His laws, His character…after all, Jesus Christ IS the Word. And if America is such a “Christian nation” (we’re not, by the way. No nation is…in every way, every country is so far from Christ and God as a majority rule that we are simply waiting for His return and judgment at this point…this isn’t a doom and gloom perspective though…I say MARANATHA, come Lord Jesus!!!) I digress though…what I was going to say is the very core of our existence as believers and followers of the Way, the Truth, and the Life-Jesus our King-is who we are because of and in Him. Then, who we are in Him united to our spouse (if we are married). Then, who we are as mothers. Then, who we are toward everyone else. So it’s a trickle-down effect.
Number one is my relationship with Christ. Who is He transforming me into? What does the fruit of the Spirit produce in me? Do I look like my Savior? I certainly should. The Holy Spirit does this work as I die to my selfish desires and become the woman He created me to be. And it’s a beautiful thing. Much better than anything I ever could be left to myself. He gives me POWER and makes everything about me new as I surrender to Him and walk with Him each day. Number two is because of this new creation I am in Him, I understand how to truly and sacrificially love my husband. I realize that it’s not all about me and my needs, but there are two of us here, working in tandem with one another and with the Almighty God of the universe, to bring us into a true and beautiful union. We are a living, breathing example of Christ’s sacrificial love and forgiveness to a watching world. We are called to have an unbreakable bond that again, looks different from anything this culture expects or experiences these days. Number three is because of this overflow from a Christ-centered marriage, we are able to truly love and nurture our children in the way God intended us to, where discipline makes our children understand our deep love for them and they feel safe and experience consistency and boundaries. They do not have to worry about our commitment to one another or to them, because our family is centered on God and His ways, which is in stark contrast to the lost and dark world around us. Our love and light though, reaches out into this darkness to create a truly safe and welcoming environment for all of those whom God puts in our path each day, as we have been called and commissioned to share Christ with all and in any way possible.
So, women of God, here is my charge to you today. I think it’s so important that we are always examining ourselves. I urge you to come into a habit of doing this if you don’t already. Get alone with the Lord and sit at His feet. Allow His love, kindness, forgiveness, mercy, and grace to wash over you. It’s never too late to begin again…to lay things down, to confess your shortcomings and ask Him to create in you a new heart, and to start fresh living for Him as maybe you’ve never done before. With complete abandon to the old you and your old ways, old bondages, old hangups…He’s the God of all the universe and He is the God of transformations…of course He wants to make you new and clean and useful for His purposes! Don’t ever doubt that, daughter of the Most High, precious and dearly loved in His sight!
We have a lot of work to do. We have a whole generation coming up after us that don’t know God, don’t know their purpose, don’t even know who THEY are. They have been blinded by the enemy and his control over this age. Telling them there are no absolutes. No right and wrong. No God. No hope, joy, or peace. Fulfillment in self, status, education, career, social media, entertainment, etc. Every bit of this is contrary to God’s Word and truth.
There IS an absolute–there IS an Almighty God, Creator of the universe, Who offered His only Son to give us hope, joy, peace, forgiveness, mercy, grace, and TRUE contentment and fulfillment in HIM. Not in anything this world has to offer. He is also coming again to judge this world and all its wickedness. And I believe He is coming soon. Until then, we have been called and commanded to do something. To share the Gospel with the lost and to make disciples. Jesus is with us always, even to the end of the age at His return, He said…so we don’t do anything of our own strength and power. But we lead others to the Son, to forgiveness of sin and to become adopted daughters of the King, as we are. And we TRAIN THEM how to live a life in the Lord. How to walk with Him. How to become new. How to receive His power. How to pray. How to walk in victory over the flesh. How to love others well, most of all our husbands and children. How to share our faith. How to serve. How to find purpose and meaning. How to cling to our faith in the hard times. How to work in the home and manage things. How to budget. How to raise children. How to be submissive (yikes, that is a bad word today, isn’t it!? lol) to husbands.
Why do you think it says that we need to train young women in this? Kind of a “duh” answer here, but it’s because it doesn’t just come naturally. Everything about the spiritual is contrary to the natural, and the last sentence of that portion of Scripture wraps up the WHY behind all of the commands Paul gave to Titus, to teach the men and women of God–if they all lived a God-honoring life, they would not bring shame on His Word. In other words, their testimony would be pure and they would be a beacon of hope and encouragement to a world that had none. Boy, couldn’t we use this today? I certainly think so.
So, older/more mature women of faith…what will you do? Is there a young(er) woman in your life who you can begin to invest in? Can you think of someone to disciple in these ways? Is there someone you can teach the Bible to? Teach to pray/pray with and for regularly? Is there a young wife/mother who could use some help around her home (& I don’t mean to stop with just physical things…there always needs to be a spiritual component brought in as the Spirit leads). We have been commanded of God to pour ourselves into the next generation, and I know this can pose a challenge for us with the disconnectedness that is real life today…but I implore you to get creative, take this before the Lord, and see what kind of doors He may open up. He wants us to be willing and always ready for what He may bring our way.
Young ladies who may be reading this…if you don’t have an older/more mature lady in your life, I also implore YOU to seek out someone who would be willing to pour into you. REACH OUT TO ME…I would love to walk with you!! These commands are to you just as much as they are to us older gals. You need us. Don’t get caught up in the prideful arrogance of this modern day that says, “you don’t need anyone, you can figure it out, do what you want, etc.” That’s not what Paul instructed here and it’s not the heart of God. We need one another, especially in matters of faith and the family of God. He desires us to be just that, a family unit. It’s important. In fact, I’m going to leave y’all with the last couple of verses from Titus 2: “11For the grace of God has been revealed, bringing salvation to all people. 12And we are instructed to turn from godless living and sinful pleasures. We should live in this evil world with wisdom, righteousness, and devotion to God, 13while we look forward with hope to that wonderful day when the glory of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, will be revealed. 14He gave his life to free us from every kind of sin, to cleanse us, and to make us his very own people, totally committed to doing good deeds. 15You must teach these things and encourage the believers to do them. You have the authority to correct them when necessary, so don’t let anyone disregard what you say.”
We all need to be taught/discipled so that we can turn around and teach/disciple others. Period. This is being about the Father’s business. Let’s do it, sisters!!